Saturday, August 30, 2014

I Do: Easy to Say. Harder to Live.


Today, Joe and I celebrate six years of...

...yard work and date nights... 

...trials and growth...

...tears and laughter... and babies... 

...doubt and comfort...

...losses and blessings...

...pain and love... 

...arguments and reconciliation...

...pride and humility... and downs...

...good times and bad times..

Six years of keeping a promise between one another and to God.


So in honor of not only our anniversary today, 
but my parents' as well,
today's blog is on one of the greatest commitments a person can make: 


Marriage, by no definition is easy, nor should it be. But we, in our fleshly nature, tend to trivialize things that seem hard for us to either obtain or that we want to give up on, and marriage is no exception to that tendency. Instead of looking at it as a serious holy covenant that "...should be honored by all" (Hebrews 13:4), we encompass it with simple catchphrases such as "the next step," or "it was meant to be," making it seem like an easy thing to do.

However, for those of us who have actually made that commitment, we know it is anything but "easy." There can be days where anger and bitterness plague your relationship so much so that all you want to do is get revenge. There can be times when the pain is so strong that you don't remember why you fell in love in the first place. There are days that just plain suck...

... But it is on "those days" that you must fight... not with one another, but together. You must fight through all of the pride, hurt, and grudges in order to recognize where the true problem lies. John 10:10 reminds us that "the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy." If he destroys your marriage, he succeeds in not only killing your joy and your spirit, but in making a mockery of God's sacred covenant. You are essentially a means to an end for the enemy and he will come in quick and hard and will pursue destruction at any cost. 

So put down the walls and weapons of judgment, self-righteousness and entitlement between you and your spouse and "submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you." (James 4:7). Stop focusing on the flaws of the other person and start striving to be the man/woman of God he is calling you to be (Proverbs 31:10-31; Ephesians 5:22-33) and stand firm in faith, truth and love. God is a god of order, perfection and purpose. He did not create marriage to be impossible or to inevitably fail. He created it out of love for us "... it is not good for man to be alone" (Genesis 2:18) and has given us the tools to succeed, but we must first submit to His Word and truth:

"Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast;
it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way;
it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with truth.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
-1 Corinthians 13:4-7

"Do not judge, or you too will be judged"- Matthew 7:1

"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you" - 1 Peter 5:7

"My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves my life"- Psalm 119:50

"My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you." -John 15:12

"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD"
- Proverbs 18:22

"Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them"
-Colossians 3:18-19


Want more? Check out last year's anniversary blog if you haven't already! "Top 10 Marriage Tips"