Monday, March 31, 2014

So You Had a Bad Day...

The last week has been hard... really hard. Harder than I thought it would be. JoJo is in Oklahoma working at his new job already and I'm left here not only without my best friend and taking care of the kids and the house by myself, but trying to get everything ready for the big move.  This morning I woke up just feeling like crud...

... but not because of all the circumstances in my life... but because of my REACTION to all of those things..

You see, last night when I went to tuck the girls in, my 4-year-old looked at me and out of the blue said, "Sorry Mama." Not knowing what she was talking about I asked her why.  She couldn't give me a clear reason, but after talking with her for awhile, I realized she was saying it because she thought I was mad at her.  It hit me like a ton of bricks. I was just so drained from the day, that I couldn't even say "goodnight" or "I love you" joyfully to my children. I felt absolutely awful. That is one of the worst feelings for a parent. I failed as a mom. I may have not yelled or overreacted, but I failed to show them love and how much they mean to me just with the tone of my voice or the dismissiveness in my responses to their questions or requests.


I was so mad at myself. I wanted to go back in time and change my behavior... But all I could do was repent and ask them for their forgiveness.  And my amazing kids, being who they are, just looked at me like I was crazy, said "I forgive you. Love you Mama," gave me a hug and went on playing with their toys.

Another lesson learned. They have taught me so much over the years. They've showed me how to love, forgive, extend grace, be grateful, enjoy life and laugh everyday. I'm so thankful for them.

So regardless if I'm having a bad day, I need to remember that there are four sets of eyes watching how I handle things that come my way and are ultimately affected by how I choose to react. So today, and everyday, I'm going to focus on just loving, being joyful and focusing on the blessings in my life rather than the trials..

Friday, March 28, 2014

Relocation Checklist

Well, it has officially begun. We have approximately seven weeks until we are official residents of Oklahoma! I can't believe it. It is all so surreal at this point. All I know is that there is a TON to do and not very much time to do it.  The good news is that the company who hired my husband has provided a relocation group to help us during this transition. My favorite part is that they will do all the packing, loading, shipping and unloading for us. We don't have to touch a single box! I was SO happy to find out that I wouldn't be packing a house by myself with four children. That was just not even cool to think about... So, while they take care of all the physical labor, we are left with all the paper trails, applications, and loose ends to tie up. And as usual, I made a list. And here it is. 

If you are moving (especially relocating to a different state), feel free to use this! 
And feel free to shoot any tips my way! 

Happy Trails.

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

It's OK..

The last six days have been hard, challenging, long and exhausting...

Last Wednesday, my husband Joe was given two offers to work for two different companies. This, in itself, was a huge blessing since he had been unemployed since last November after being laid off. Both were equally great opportunities with great pay. The problem was, one was local but would require him to travel the first ninety days and then 30%+ of his time after that, while the other would require us to relocate to Oklahoma City. We were left with the choice for him to be away from the kids and I a lot of the time OR to move away from all our family and friends.

The next few days our minds and emotions bounced around like ping-pong balls. One minute we would be on board for staying and dealing with the travel time, the next we would be looking at houses in OKC. The roller coaster of what we were going to do was draining. Thinking it would help, we wrote a pros and cons list for each company together.... which did not help us out since the number of pros and cons were even for both companies. It felt like we were getting nowhere and the deadline to respond to the offers kept getting closer and closer...

Sunday morning, on the way to church, I asked Joe where he was at as far as the two companies were concerned. He was 90/10 (in favor of OKC) and I was 70/30. Something in me knew that is where we would end up, but my flesh kept fighting it. I DID NOT want to leave my family and what has been my home for 28 years. I was comfortable. I was fine not being stretched or having to test my faith. All I wanted was for God to answer our prayers for Joe to get an amazing job here and nothing else change. But deep inside I knew that wasn't going to happen.

Sure enough, the message Pastor Darius spoke that morning went straight to the core and we knew what we were supposed to do. The decision to move to OKC kept being confirmed throughout the day. By Sunday evening, we both had that tangible peace that we had been praying for for DAYS. It was then that I knew no matter what happened, we were going to be okay.

The hardest part of this journey will be leaving the people we love. There is such blessing in being minutes away from loved ones and having most of your immediate family at every soccer game, birthday party or holiday gathering and we are having to walk away from that. So while we know this next season of life may not be ideal or the easiest, we just have to put our faith and trust in God that we will see the purpose in it and be able to find joy in the new experiences.

I have to admit, I already have eight houses picked out and just the thought of being able to fit our family of six in a good sized home without paying a ton gets me really excited! This is gonna be good... Hard, but good...

Thank you to all of you who have supported us over the years. We will miss each and every one of you. We will obviously come visit as much as possible! And if you're ever in the OKC area, we will actually have a house big enough to have a guest room, so give us a shout!

All Our Love,

{The Rettedals}

Joe, Ali, Addison, Jaelyn, Jacobi, Aksel

See you soon Oklahoma...

P.S. Stay tuned for future blogs full of details, experiences and moving mishaps!