Sunday, August 26, 2012

Top 10 Marriage Tips

In honor of our anniversary week, I thought it would be appropriate to make a list of the best marital advice that we've been given or discovered for ourselves over the years.

WARNING: The following tips have not been censored or "sugar-coated" to make the reader feel "comfortable."

1. Sleep naked

2. Pray together

3. Find time to date- especially if you have children

4. Never let a day go by without exchanging a kiss and an "I love you"

5. Fight naked

6. Focus on fixing YOUR flaws, not your spouses

7. Have sex daily

8. Try new things together

9. Ladies: Let him watch his ESPN. In fact, watch it with him

10: Gentlemen: Just tell her. Whether you're thinking that you love her laugh or that she looks hot in those jeans, let her know. She needs it.

Here's the deal. I could make a list of 100 things; not because we're perfect, but because we're human. We've had the most amazing moments together, but we've also had the worst. The best thing you can do is not look at the damage caused from the hard times, but how you can grow from those situations and make yourself a better spouse.

And to tackle the big elephant in the room... Yes. There is a theme of being naked. Why? Because you can't "hide" behind anything. You are completely vulnerable and transparent. Again, these aren't things to make you feel comfortable, but to bring you closer together. I'm just telling you, the hardest thing to do is strip down and be completely naked when you are pissed off. Not because taking off your clothes is a hard task, but because you will no longer feel "protected" and "defended." It really puts a damper on "fight mode." 
Let me put it this way... 
How can you be "one" with him/her if you can't stand before them completely exposed and in a state of humility?

P.S. If you're looking for a good book on marriage, there's this one called the Bible. Pretty good stuff. Just sayin..